G spot Massage (Updated!)

The G spot. Here you'll learn what it is, where it is, and what to do with it. The technique takes only minutes to learn but you may need a few tries for it to work.

 

The G spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation.
Where exactly is the G spot? It's the red spot in the diagram below:

 

Female reproductive system diagram showing vagina and location of G spot (marked red), about 1/3 of the way inside the vagina, on the wall closest to the clitoris.

(click to enlarge)

 

The important things to know about the G-spot are:

  1. All women have a G-spot.
  2. Massaging the G-spot is the key to multiple orgasms and also female ejaculation, which are said to be extremely pleasurable by women who have them.
  3. All women have the capability to reach G-spot orgasm. All you need is the desire and the right technique.

 

G-spot massage in the Doggy Position

For now, forget about sex - the best way to get G-spot pleasure is with fingers or better, a thumb. The best position for G-spot massage is the doggy position. The man should insert his thumb into her vagina (no long or sharp nails please!), press down onto her G-spot, and massage back and forth:

 

G-spot massage in the doggy position. Black and white line diagram showing a woman kneeling in the doggy position. The man kneels upright behind her. His thumb is inserted (face down) into her vagina and is stroking her G-spot (which is facing upwards).

 

If the woman pushes her hips back, this makes her G-spot easier to find and easier to stroke. Close up inside it looks like this:

 

Close up of G-spot massage in the doggy position. Black and white line diagram showing female reproduction organs, with the woman kneeling in the doggy position. The man's thumb is shown in her vagina, with the pad of his thumb pressing down onto her G-spot, about 2 to 3 inches inside. The man's forefinger knuckle is resting on her clitoris.

 

G-spot massage is not exactly as straightforward as clitoris massage, and there are a few more things you need to know. We'll take you through them all. Here's a rundown of the full G-spot massage technique:

  1. Trim your nails short.
  2. Lots of foreplay.
  3. The woman kneels on all fours in the doggy position and pushes her hips back, as shown above.
  4. The man inserts his thumb into her vagina and presses down onto her G-spot.
  5. The man massages her G-spot back and forth, with firm pressure.
  6. The woman should relax her PC muscle and keep it relaxed.
  7. The woman should let go of the 'pee feeling'.

 

1. Trim your nails short.

Watch out for long or sharp nails. They can cause small cuts or tears in the delicate skin in and around the vagina.

2. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.

Foreplay builds sexual arousal and fills the sex organs with blood, making them more responsive. The more you foreplay, the more pleasure you'll get when you have sex. Without foreplay, touching your G-spot may be uncomfortable or even painful. Orgasm is much more likely after lots of foreplay.

3. The woman kneels on all fours in the doggy position

And pushes her hips back. This position really helps with G-spot massage. Pushing your hips back increases pressure in your pelvis. Your legs, hips and bum tighten up and gently squash your vagina and the surrounding area. And most importantly, this position pushes the G-spot slightly further out into the vagina, making it easier to find and stimulate.

4. The man inserts his thumb into her vagina and presses down onto her G-spot.

He should be able to feel her G-spot as a bumpy, ridged area about one inch in diameter. When a woman is aroused, her G-spot gets larger and protrudes into the vaginal canal.

5. The man massages her G-spot back and forth, with firm pressure.

He then rubs the pad of his thumb back and forth on her G-spot. The pressure has to firm. Only a deep, firm massaging will work. Unlike the clitoris, the G-spot doesn't respond to light pressure.

6. The woman should relax her PC muscle and keep it relaxed.

The PC muscle in women is very similar to that in men. It connects the tail bone to the pubic bone, it can clench, release and push, and it can be used to prevent the passing of urine. You can feel it in action by placing a finger just inside your vagina and squeezing. It's shown as a thick black band in the diagram below:

Female PC muscle. A black and white line profile view diagram of the female reproductive system, showing G-spot, clitoris, bladder, anus, and the PC muscle shown as a thick black curved band joining the pubic bone to the tail bone (coccyx)

 Female PC muscle (click to enlarge)

When a woman's G-spot is being stroked, she may feel like tensing her PC muscle. Don't do this - she should keep it relaxed. Along with firm pressure on the G-spot, this is one of the keys to G-spot orgasm. Relaxing the PC muscle is also the key to female ejaculation.
For a clitoral orgasm, women usually tense their PC muscle. For a G-spot orgasm it's the opposite. See the page on the difference between clitoral and G-spot orgasms.

7. The woman should let go of the 'pee feeling'.

This is the final piece of the G-spot orgasm puzzle, and also unlocks female ejaculation.

As pleasure builds during G-spot massage, a woman will feel the sensation of needing to pee. The key to both G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation is to just let this feeling go. What's happening is the build up to female ejaculation or squirting. This is a clear odourless liquid that squirts out of the urethra during G-spot massage. The liquid comes from glands that surround the urethra known as Skene's glands. These glands become engorged during and block the flow of urine from your bladder.

Much more information can be found in the female ejaculation section.


By the way, the G in G spot stands for Gräfenberg, after the German doctor who discovered it in the 1950s. Now you know.

 

G spot orgasm

With practice and some luck, G spot massage will produce an orgasm. The man can feel the orgasm happening by feeling the orgasmic contractions around his finger or thumb. This will be a light, rhythmical squeezing and releasing of the vagina, lasting about 5 to 10 seconds.


Multiple G spot Orgasm

If you keep going after the first orgasm, its possible to reach a second, third or more. In some cases, clitoral stimulation can produce multiple orgasms, but the most common way is G spot massage. If you reach the first orgasm from G spot massage, have a rest for about 20 seconds, but then you can begin massaging the G-spot again, as long as the woman feels comfortable. Many women find stimulation just after orgasm uncomfortable.
If you keep going like this you may reach two, three or more orgasms. Leave the 20 second pause after each one, but only after the orgasmic contractions are over - don't stop during the orgasm! Again remember to use firm pressure on the G spot - light rubbing won't do anything.


If it doesn't work

G-spot massage in the doggy position as shown above is usually the most effective. If it doesn't work for you, try G-spot massage in the missionary position - this might work better.

If you still have trouble getting pleasure from G spot massage and have tried everything above, we suggest clitoral stimulation. Though G spot play is generally considered more likely to produce multiple orgasm and female ejaculation, clit play works for a higher percentage of women. Clit sex still yields lots and lots and lots of pleasure for women - highly recommended. Then try G spot and clit together - with your partner's thumb on your G spot, he can use the fingers from the same hand to stroke your clit, or he can use his other hand to play with your clit. Whatever works for you... pleasure is paramount.

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