G spot Massage

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The G spot is a zone about 3 to 6 centimetres inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation.
Where exactly is the G spot? It's the red spot in the diagram below:

G spot massage in the Doggy Position

For now, forget about sex - the best route to G-spot pleasure is with fingers or better, a thumb. The best position for G-spot massage is the doggy position. The man should insert his thumb into her vagina (no long or sharp nails please!), press down onto her G-spot, and massage back and forth:

If the woman pushes her hips back, this makes her G-spot easier to find and easier to stroke. Close up inside it looks like this:

Sex toys such as G-spot massagers are also very useful, but make sure you use one with a rounded end. Some vibrators have a slightly pointed end which could cause discomfort. For now we'll focus on using a thumb or fingers.
G-spot massage is not exactly as straightforward as clitoris massage, and there are a few more things you need to know. We'll take you through them all. Here's a rundown of the full G-spot massage technique:

1. Trim your nails short
Watch out for long or sharp nails. They can cause small cuts or tears in the delicate skin in and around the vagina.

2. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay
It builds sexual arousal and fills the sex organs with blood, making them more responsive. The more you foreplay, the more pleasure you'll get when you have sex. Without foreplay, touching your G-spot may be uncomfortable or even painful. Orgasm is much more likely after lots of foreplay.

3. Use the doggy position
The woman kneels on all fours in the doggy position, and pushes her hips back. This position really helps with G-spot massage. Pushing your hips back increases pressure in your pelvis. Your legs, hips and bum tighten up and gently squash your vagina and pelvic muscles. Most importantly, this position pushes the G-spot slightly further out into the vagina, making it easier to find and stimulate.

4. Press on the G-spot
The man inserts his thumb into her vagina and presses down onto her G-spot. He should be able to feel her G-spot as a bumpy, ridged area about 2 to 3 centimetres in diameter. When a woman is aroused, her G-spot gets larger and protrudes into the vaginal canal.

5. Massage the G-spot.
The man massages her G-spot back and forth, with firm pressure, with the pad of his thumb. The pressure has to firm. The G-spot contains pressure sensitive nerve endings, so only a deep, firm massaging will work. Unlike the clitoris, the G-spot doesn't respond to light pressure.

6. Relax your PC muscle.
The woman should relax her PC (pubococcygeus) muscle and keep it relaxed. The female PC muscle in women is similar to the male PC muscle. It connects the tail bone to the pubic bone, it can clench, release and push, and it can be used to prevent the passing of urine. You can feel it in action by placing a finger just inside your vagina and squeezing. It's shown as a thick black band in the diagram below:

When a woman's G-spot is being stroked, she may feel like tensing her PC muscle. Don't do this - she should keep it relaxed. It's believed that tensing the PC muscle blocks the action of the Female Prostate. Along with firm pressure on the G-spot, this is one of the keys to G-spot orgasm. Relaxing the PC muscle is also the key to female ejaculation.
For a clitoral orgasm, women usually tense their PC muscle. For a G-spot orgasm it's the opposite. See the page on the difference between clitoral and G-spot orgasms.

7. Let go of the 'pee feeling'.
This is the final piece of the G-spot orgasm puzzle, and also unlocks female ejaculation. As pleasure builds during G-spot massage, a woman will feel the sensation of needing to pee. The key to both G-spot orgasm and female ejaculation is to just let this feeling go. What's happening is the build up to female ejaculation or squirting. This is a clear odourless liquid emitted from the urethra during G-spot massage. The liquid comes from an organ that surround the urethra known as the female prostate. The female prostate becomes engorged during sexual pleasure and blocks the flow of urine from your bladder, so you can't pee. Much more information can be found in the female ejaculation section.

The G in G spot stands for Gräfenberg, after the German doctor Ernst Gräfenberg who wrote about it in the 1950s. The term 'G-spot' was coined by Perry, Whipple and Ladas in their groundbreaking 1982 book The G spot and other recent discoveries about human sexuality. Debate still rages as to G-spot's Existence.

G spot orgasm

With practice and some luck, G spot massage will produce an orgasm. The man can feel the orgasm happening by feeling the orgasmic contractions around his finger or thumb. This will be a light, rhythmical squeezing and releasing of the vagina, lasting about 5 to 10 seconds.

Multiple G spot Orgasm

If you keep going after the first orgasm, its possible to reach a second, third or more. In some cases, clitoral stimulation can produce multiple orgasms, but the most common way is G spot massage. If you reach the first orgasm from G spot massage, have a rest for about 20 seconds, but then you can begin massaging the G-spot again, as long as the woman feels comfortable. Many women find stimulation just after orgasm uncomfortable.
If you keep going like this you may reach two, three or more orgasms. Leave the 20 second pause after each one, but only after the orgasmic contractions are over - don't stop during the orgasm! Again remember to use firm pressure on the G spot - light rubbing won't do anything.

If it doesn't work

G-spot massage in the doggy position as shown above is usually the most effective. If it doesn't work for you, try G-spot massage in the missionary position - this might work better.

If you still have trouble getting pleasure from G spot massage and have tried everything above, we suggest clitoral stimulation. Though G spot play is generally considered more likely to produce multiple orgasm and female ejaculation, clit play works for a higher percentage of women. Clit sex still yields lots and lots and lots of pleasure for women - highly recommended. Then try G spot and clit together - with your partner's thumb on your G spot, he can use the fingers from the same hand to stroke your clit, or he can use his other hand to play with your clit. Whatever works for you... pleasure is paramount.

Deborah Sundahl

A fantastic book on the G-spot is written by Deborah Sundahl. She runs workshops for women to get in touch with their bodies, and their G-spot. It details years of helping women achieve G-spot orgasms and Female Ejaculation, and runs through the science, the anatomy, the techniques and the results. Highly recommended (no affiliation!)
Sundahl's website
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