the pee feeling

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Anon

I am a 21 year old female. I have never had an orgasm. When having sex with my husband the farthest i get is feeling like I have to pee. I have tried to to relax, but I'm so nervous that i will pee on everything. So i say hold on and i go and i do pee. sometimes i try to hold it and save the mood but then I'm concentrating on holding it and it ruins the mood too.When masturbating in the shower one time i had that feeling, i let it go and i did indeed pee. Any advice??

Anon

Greetings. I am 23. I have no problem having an orgasm by myself or with a vibrator. This is my "clitoral" orgasm. I have trouble with the g-spot orgasm. I am like the others and I get a feeling that I have to pee. One time I experimented by myself and used my fingers until I felt that pee feeling and I kept going but I didnt pee. I thought that would bring me piece of mind, but it hasn't. Why can't I just let go? Do I need to trust my partner more? Should I try getting one of those g-spot vibrators? Should I get drunk so I let go of my inhabitions? I drink anyways, so you wouldn't be encouraging me. I don't really care whether or not it happens during sex, oral stimulation, or with just myself. I just want it to happen SO bad. Please help me!

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Anon wrote:
I am a 21 year old female. I have never had an orgasm. When having sex with my husband the farthest i get is feeling like I have to pee. I have tried to to relax, but I'm so nervous that i will pee on everything. So i say hold on and i go and i do pee. sometimes i try to hold it and save the mood but then I'm concentrating on holding it and it ruins the mood too.When masturbating in the shower one time i had that feeling, i let it go and i did indeed pee. Any advice??
Have you tried stroking your clit? In general that's a more reliable way to orgasm.

For g-spot orgasms / female ejaculation, the first thing is to go to the toilet beforehand. Try on your own first, without your husband. Use a g-spot massager, vibrator (but not with a pointed tip) or other sex toy. During g-spot massage, the g-spot / female prostate swells up and closes off the bladder sphincter, which blocks the flow of urine from the bladder through the urethra. So you won't pee. Just keep going and let the pee feeling go. At first only a small amount of ejaculate may come out. You can increase the strength of the ejaculate by pushing out.

infosex
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Anon wrote:
Greetings. I am 23. I have no problem having an orgasm by myself or with a vibrator. This is my "clitoral" orgasm. I have trouble with the g-spot orgasm. I am like the others and I get a feeling that I have to pee. One time I experimented by myself and used my fingers until I felt that pee feeling and I kept going but I didnt pee. I thought that would bring me piece of mind, but it hasn't. Why can't I just let go? Do I need to trust my partner more? Should I try getting one of those g-spot vibrators? Should I get drunk so I let go of my inhabitions? I drink anyways, so you wouldn't be encouraging me. I don't really care whether or not it happens during sex, oral stimulation, or with just myself. I just want it to happen SO bad. Please help me!
Your best approach is to try on your own without your partner. Use a g-spot massager or any sex toy with a rounded end. A curve in the toy is also helpful. Without your partner you'll have less inhibitions. Alcohol is not necessary. Sometimes it takes a few sessions or a few weeks of practice. Your PC muscle and female prostate build up in strength over that time. Put a towel down on the bed and tell yourself, even if you do pee it doesn't matter. This will help get over the feeling. But as mentioned above, you won't pee.

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