PC Muscle Strength question

For young, fit, healthy men, there is no advantage in exercising the PC muscle, aka kegels.

Just about every sex manual and article advises kegels to help men last longer. And it's quite simply wrong. Relaxing your PC muscle will help you last longer. Tensing it will bring you quicker to orgasm. Alternately squeezing and releasing your PC muscle 10 times a day will do nothing.

If you do kegels 30 times a day, and then happen to squeeze your PC during sex you will likely go straight to orgasm.

Kegels have been used for 1000s of years in Tantric Sex but are named after Dr. Arnold Kegel who prescribed them for women who had weak PC muscles after childbirth. His aim was to reduce incontinence but many women inadvertently reported an improved sex life.

Since that time, sex manuals repeat a boilerplate "do kegels to improve sex" to all and sundry, men and women of all ages and fitnesses. If your PC muscles are weakened by childbirth, an injury, or age, then yes, kegels will improve sex. But for young healthy men to last longer, they are useless.

So simply relax your PC muscle to last longer. The technique itself is really that simple, and there is nothing else to explain. However, if you find it difficult to maintain relaxation of your PC muscle, then there are many exercises you can try.

Try masturbation in many different positions.

Use mental relaxation, meditation and slow breathing in each of the different positions.

Relax the muscles in your legs, hips, ass and back.

Throughout all this practice, you will build muscle memory between your mind and your PC muscle. Although during times of sexual pleasure, there is great temptation to tense it, the PC is a voluntary muscle and you have complete control over it.

Here's an analogy:

When you fall to the ground, your instinct is to break the fall with your hands outstretched, fingers splayed out and crumple to the ground. This is a natural, instinctive reaction.

But with practice, and through building muscle memory, you can train yourself to close your fingers, land on your forearms, and roll out of a fall. It's less natural, but you have full voluntary control of each muscle involved.

It's true, for certain, that you could keep your PC muscle relaxed entirely during sex and still come within a few minutes. But add in slow breathing, meditation, confidence, and leg/hip/ass relaxation and as a last resort, stop-start, and you are much more likely to last longer.