licking clit, feel like i'm peeing

this site is one of the best I've seen. straight forward information. if you read everything and then remember that the key is relaxing and letting go. Most women have trouble when they "try" to orgasm. The more you want to orgasm, the farther away it will feel. Touch yourself in a variety of ways and you'll find out what works for you. The best way i've found to "relax" is in tantric exercises. Tantric techniques help you to focus on the feeling and not the goal. You can find books on tantric sex in any bookstore. My favorite technique is a reverse countdown of soft/slow and them hard/fast touches. You can try dry touches on the clit hood and/or wet touches. Most women experience overload when touching the clit glans directly. Here's how it works... 10 very soft strokes on the clitoris hood ; then 9 soft (and slow)/and/1 hard (and or fast); 8 soft/2 hard; 7 soft/3 hard; 6 soft/4 hard; 5 soft/5 hard; 4 soft/6 hard; 3 soft/7 hard; 2 soft/8 hard; 1 soft/9 hard; 10/0, REPEAT. breathe slowly and deeply, let your mind wander. Think of beautiful places, the beach and waves. don't think about the orgasm and it will come, in a very powerful way. and don't worry about peeing. when you get close, the sensation can feel like you need to pee. -- hope this helps!