I'm a virgin, she's not, tips to pull it off
Mon, 06/29/2009 - 00:28
Im a virgin, but in the coming week or so I have an opportunity to lose it with a decently attractive girl. Problem is, she's not a virgin and although I haven't told her one way or the other, im confident she thinks I am not one as well. I would rather not tell her so that the opportunity isnt jeopardized or made weird, so I was wondering if anyone had some tips to pull it off. I don't need to be the best ever, but I'd love to be able to give her a pretty good time without revealing the fact its my first. Any tips would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
Mon, 06/29/2009 - 15:30
#2
more tips:
- Know how to put a condom on.
Go out now and buy some condoms. Practice putting one on. Read the instructions all the way through on your own. The biggest pitfall when putting on a condom is trying to roll it down the wrong way around, so practice this a couple of times and get it right.
Don't read the instructions for the first time while she's ready and waiting for penetration. - Lots of foreplay.
Don't go straight for sex. Take your time. - Know where the clit is and how to use it.
There's no substitute for real experience here but you can read all about it and examine the diagrams on the clit pages.
The advantage you have is that there is wide variation from woman to woman in how they like the clit stroked, so you can ask her which way she prefers without looking like a first timer.
She might like up-down, side-to-side, clockwise circles, anti-clockwise circles etc etc. Clockwise circles seem to be the most common, so you can start with that, but then ask her which way she prefers.
(This is all assuming she likes having her clit stroked; but only a small percentage of women don't.) - Last longer than 2 minutes.
There's a very good chance you will come within the first few minutes of sex. If so, this is perfectly normal and nothing to be worried about.
However with some practice you can greatly increase your sex time. Masturbation is the perfect way to get in that practice. Try PC muscle relaxation and slow breathing and relax the muscles in your hips, legs and ass. Do all this from the very start of sex (i.e., not when you get too close to orgasm).
Relax your body and your mind. Stay calm.
Position-wise, it's harder to last longer when you're on top so as mentioned above, the woman-on-top (aka cowgirl position) would be best.
However it's highly likely that your first position you'll have sex in will be the missionary, since this leads naturally from foreplay.
When you have some time alone, try to practice lasting longer while masturbating into your lubed hand while facing downwards on the bed - this is the closest you'll get to the missionary position for masturbation.
However if you come after only a few minutes of sex - enjoy it! It's nothing to be worried about, especially on your first time.... you can only get better! - Afterplay.
It's tempting to roll over and fall asleep after you come. Don't - just repeat what you were doing during the foreplay. - Afterwards, tell her you are (were) a virgin.
If the sex was great, she'll be even more impressed.
If the sex was rubbish, you have an excuse!!
Hmm, perhaps you should let her know?
But if you don't want to -
1. Make sure you are sure you want to lose it with her, its a once in a lifetime thing and there is a chance you might regret it.
2. Take things slowly - use the relaxation technique if you can.
3. It is almost a given you won't last very long - but that doesn't have to be the end of it. Take a number of condoms and once you have 'gone' once you will last much longer the second time. Keep it slow and rhythmatic.
4. If you can let her go ontop DO SO. She will enjoy you and you will have a good time. If you let her take control like that then she will have a great time and therefore you will come off as a good lover.
5. If not, then just go for it and have fun - I am guessing that you know the basics, so you know what goes where... go for it and have fun. Don't try anything too exotic.