I can't get an orgasm

I recently lost my virginity as well and have not been able to have an orgasm from my bf through penetration. Do you have any suggestions that we can try because I feel as if we are both becoming frustrated and that is not helping us either.

thank you so much for your advice! I will try it out! :)

hi

i think i am broken. ive been "active" for 4 years & i still cant orgasim. ive been with my partner for 3 yrs & we still have been un successfull with making me orgasim. for starters. when he goes down on me. i twitch, & shake like a tickeling feeling. & the very few times that i came close ive pushed him away. i dont mean to. its like an automatic reaction. ive tried with a vibrater & ive tried by playing with myself. i just dont underdstand. i really want this to happen

I am in the exact same boat as post 8. I have gotten really close once, but then like someone else said, it passes in a flash. And once its gone, its gone. Its really annoying. I heard once you have one its way easier to get it again. So is it just going to take a long time for the first one or is it going to be this hard every time?
I have never gotten close with a vibrator or just by myself, just with my boyfriend, and I don't think there is anything more he could possibly do. Trust me...

Don't feel bad, honey, I'm 43 and although I've come close [pardon the pun] it just hasn't happened for me. I thought it was my ex-husband's lack of technique which let me down; 25 years of it. But now I am having great sex fun with a guy who plays with me so much but the tingly feeling scares me and I keep thinking 'poor guy, he's going to keep doing this lovely thing, hoping for something to happen and I'm going to let him down by not orgasming' and then I don't; even if we're at it for 5 hours! Like I said, it feels wonderful and I feel real sexy, but I know I haven't had the real O and I want it so much. Perhaps that's what's stopping me? Good luck

I feel like my experience is legit now that I have read comment by the 43yr old. I have been married for 15yrs and am getting a divorce; I am 36 yrs old. I have had 3 sex partners including my ex husband. Anyway, I have been thinking about sex and didn't even know that I had a g spot; I don't even think I have really ever had an orgasm either. I'm glad that you brave 20 year olds are figuring this stuff out now, and I hope that I'm not too late.

Hello! I'm the original poster of this question. AND I have now had quite a few orgasms. WHat I foudn worked best was this egg vibrator thing. It's a smallish egg-shaped object which is attached to what I would call a "remote control", which has different speeds.

Let me tell you, it does take time. I think it usually takes me 20 minutes to half an hour. But it's amazing. For those of you who don't know what it feels like, let me describe:

It sort of feels like this amazing buzzing sound and something is building up or pooling inside...then all of your muscles seem to be contracting at different times...and then it just happens. It is glorious! I love it! :)

Thanks so much for this site!

Hi i'm 21 and I kinda went thought the same ordeal even tho im male not female. But I recently started having sex at the age of 19 and could not cum I thought I was doing something wrong because It just was not enjoyable it seemed more like work even masturbation was not fun for awhile I never told anyone this so its kind of hard to explain but like your leg technique the only way i could cum is pulling my penis out of the front of my boxers button the buttons around it and twist the fabric while pushing down alieving myself. but even then sex was not fun. finally I met this girl who taught me some things and I started to get more pleasure but still could not cum. One night I got drunk and slept with the girl and finally released all the tension. I found out later that I was thinking about it too much and was unknowingly willing myself not to reach that point. I do not advise the drinking that just helped me to stop thinking about it. I do however think if you stopped putting so much pressure on yourself to orgasm and focused on the feeling it might start to feel good there by bringing you that much closer to reach the big O. Also seeing as crossing your legs stimulates your clit I advise having your boyfriend or lover eat you out focusing on your clit while you wrap your legs around him thrust your hips closer to his tounge and squeeze trust me he'll like it too! Hopefully this helps you

hi...

i masturbate... but the liquid never comes out of me.. i am a 20 yr old gal. this is a big probs whn my bf tries to play wid me... help me plzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I almost have the same problem, I could only get off with clit orgasms... I also have to move, so I do have to masturbate the childish way of rubbing against something, or my hand. Not very sexy, but it's feels great.

I am 27 years old and i have been active since i was 13 and have had a few partners but have never expierienced an orgasm during sexual intercourse wut can be done during sex so i can come..

hey! Ever tried watching some "BDSM" or "spanking" vids while rubbing ur clit rly fast, it feels kinda like a vibrator for me. And i get massive orgasms of it, thats just an avdice ;) try it?

well, i lost my virginity when i was only 13 years old.

my boyfriend pressured me into having sex with him.

& i barely knew anything about sex.

i didnt even know what an orgasm was,

so he explained it to me and showed me that the g-spot is the most easiest place to get an orgasm besides rubbing ur clit...

hey im 17 i lost my virginity when i was 16 3months b4 my 17th...

i was having sex with my boyfriend but for some reason after i had sex with him i didnt wanna be with him and since then i aint had sex..

i dont get why i didnt want to be with him after that and the sex was ok wasnt nothing exciting i didnt get an orgasm but he cum...

lucky for him ii just want the advice why i didnt want to be with him now im missing him and he dont want to be with me no more becoz i didnt want to be with him when we first had sex

The same exact thing happens to me...I don't know what to do to fix it

im 20 yr old female. most of the time i get very close to climax, i can just feel as im about to have an O, but then for some reason i stop, i try but cant keep going.

it doesnt really bother me to not cum, because it still feels really good everytime but my bf after almost a yr now is gettin frustrated and wants to see me ejaculate.i dont want to give up, everyytime i think i get closer. it just sometimes i feel like im about to pee n #2 as well and i get scared, tho he tells me he doesnt care jjust let go i still worry if i do #2... his older so im sure is not his fault, but me. wat can i do? do some women just not get to that point?

This is to any woman. I'm 37 and have been enjoying Mostly clitoral orgasms since I was around 15. I was a rather 'horny' teen and one of my friends suggested laying in the tub with the water running just above or on the clit. It's rather awkward, maybe strange but it sure worked for me. You basically have your legs up in the air against the wall with your butt where the drain is. It feels so good, just pull back the skin to expose the clit a bit and let the water do the work for you. Or if you are a bigger woman, a jet tub works just as well. Make sure to have the jets on gentle though, or you might hurt yourself. Trust me if you do this you will have an orgasm. Just try not to let the water go into your vagina, cover it with one hand or something; especially if you are in a jet tub, because of the pressure you don't want water to get up inside you. Then when you have that down pat, then you know what feels good for you. Now you can transfer the same feeling in bed. Use your index and middle finger, one on each side of your clit. Massage it and you can start to feel what you did when the water was massaging it for you. Just practice this and you will have very body tremmbling orgasms like me. My husband is actually jealous. I don't always orgasm when we have intercourse and if I do it's not a clitoral orgasm. So sometimes, when we are done and I'm still horny I get to work and masturbate right beside him. He's used to it. It's just such an awsome feeling, women are really gifted. And the cool part is that women can have multiple orgasms, unlike men, haha. You can have one awsome clitoral orgasm, take a break for a moment, then give yourself another one two minutes later. It's alway's faster the second time, and feels just as good as the first. You can go ahead and have a third too if you have any energy left... I really hope this works for you. Another thing is to fantasize while you are masterbating, that really helps too. And I never 'ejaculate' like some women talk about. You will get wet and it slowly seeps out, but for 'ejaculating ' I think that is only when having a g-spot orgasm.

the nuva ring is really good

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I had the same problem for a long time. And the only advice that I had ever found was relax so I just figured I was one of the unlucky women who couldn't orgasm. But I'm not, I found that if you tense your muscles down there (cant remember what they are  called right now) right before you start to feel like your going to twitch you will begin a fantastic orgasm.

Hope this helps someone.

I have a question.  Im 17 and have had steady sex with 3 different guys but never had an orgasm.  However, I was recently trying my hand at masturbating, and I came.  It felt good, but I'm not sure if it was an orgasm.  My question is, does a girl necessarily have an orgasm every time she comes? Do the two go hand in hand? Or is it conceivable that I didn't orgasm, just ejaculated?  I hoped up really quickly after I came because I didn't realize how much fluid there would be and I had to get a towel.  Thanks in advance!