First time, And I went for hours
Hi all.
First time posting and just wanted to get some of your thoughts.
Well As young males, we were all talking about sex and saying how good it is and all, Even me but i had not actually had sex and was ust lying to fit in...
Well 18 and by now all my other bro's had already had sex.
And They were all saying how it's hard sometimes to keep from cumming and they just try to think about something else or just change positions for a break.
Finally the day came where I was about to have sex.
I was hella nervous, because after hearing all the bros talk about it, i thought id only last a couple seconds or something.
But no.....I went on for hours, literally.
I thought it was first time lucky, but then the second time, same thing.
By now i started thinking, how can it be soo hard?
Im not boasting or anything. But yeah, how do some find it soo hard to hold on? I love it, Just watching her goes nuts while i keep at it, It's awesome!
Same thing here man. I see statistics and things, (my cousins are the one's who taught me back when i was eight, and even now after years) but i can last for 20 minutes at least without ever feeling like i HAVE to orgasm. Through experimenting myself back when i was still learning and figuring out that i had to "push" instead of squeeze to hold back my orgasm, plus slowing down just a bit to add on another 15 to 20 seconds, i can go for 3 hours with no orgasm whatsoever.
Its almost a problem for me, because most girls actually have theirs quite awhile before i do, and although they put in an effort they lose rythm and overall stamina while im gettin mine.
Honestly why's it a problem for other guys to last 5 minutes? I wanna hear feedback too.
Hello,
Well my boyfriend also takes a very long to time to cum. It has been like you, up to 3 hours. I have always fantasized about going along time, but the reality is that no matter how attracted and hot I feel about him, after i cum a few times and he keeps on going and going I feel exhausted and not sure if i'm doing things right to him. I have experience so I'm not new to this I've Never had any other boyfriend complain as a matter of fact most of my boyfriends in the past have commented on how wild and hot i am in bed. Now I just feel tired and try to continue but sometimes i feel kinda like maybe i'm not turning him on enough to make him cum? Or maybe i'm not as tight as I've been led me to believe? I do kegel exercises and masturbate to orgasm which firms up the vagina? I am in great shape but still don't have the stamina to keep up with him, I've never used lubricant in my entire life and now, I feel like i might need to?????? I'm at a loss. I talk dirty, i give him head, I do doggy, me on top, him on top, my knees on his neck, you name it i've tried it, I'm at a complete loss? Sometimes he cums quick but mostly its 2 hours or more....and then i'm not sure if he cums at all during the long events????? help! Never experienced anything like this before?
hey this happens to me too! Im a student and the trouble is, if im drunk it takes even longer! Its happened quite a lot where i get to the point after she has finished and clearly knackered that i just fake it (i dont do some over the top sound haah i just kinda stop and dont let her see the empty condom) its not that i cant cum, it just takes ages and i kind of feel embarassed when i dont cum after her and she keeps asking me to!
Is there anything you can do to come quicker? like there is millions of excercises and advice to cum slower, but not much on quicker?
So is it us..the women not doing something right to help you cum? or is it just like you can't let it go? Does it still feel good to you even if its soo long to get there? Have you always had this happen, was there something one of your partners did to help you release easier? Does it still feel good without cumming? Do you get frustrated and want to blame the woman? I'm just at a loss i've not experienced this before and honestly never imagined, that him not cumming would make me feel like such a bad lover? Even though conciously i know this isnt' true??? Now i know why men feel so bad when they can't make their women cum? My boyfriend has actually gone about 1 hour to the shortest time about 30 minutes, and he apologizes that he didn't go long enough? I'm like OMG that is about what the average time is? At least i thought, i tell him its not like i'm keeping time? just now that its like 2 or 3 hours I try to think positively but afraid i will start to feel like its me i mean its aleady happening if i'm here asking you guys right? Any ideas on how i can get him to relax i posted and massage, oral different positions? you name it. I'm very calm loving person not like some nervous freak just want to connect better with my man that's all. well thanks.
yer course i still enjoy it.. to be honest i think i need to just relax more ye, i think its because initially when i do feel like cumin i dnt coz i want to last longer for her and then once i do this it seems im lasting too long! Maybe he is just concentrating too much and thinking about your timing and getting you there? As i said earlier drinking definately doesnt help for me! I found the best thing was when a girl was giving oral she went really deep and slowly.. you could try that i suppose? Haha i wrote on this site because i thought there was some professional that answered you and helped, but now im thinking you just talk to others? Yer its definately not your fault because the girls ive been with were brilliant and it still took me ages! It felt like i was ready to but just couldnt hit that last bit. Hope this was some help lol?
Hey i appreciate the time you took for the feedback. Very helpful hearing it directly from a guy ya know? I also thought it was advise from a doc. but i guess we just help ourselves? which is usually better anyhow! If i can help from women's point of view i will be happy to! I think you are right, my boyfriend is very much into "performance" and i think he wants to amaze me, which he does, I am a multiple orgasmic type and he pleases me for sure. I think what you said about controlling for so long then when you actually want to let go you can't is what is happening!? I love oral and i think he is so uptight that he just has a hard time relaxingt and just feel the feelings he is experiencing. He is so uptight about pleasing me he doesn't take time for himself. I will work on slowing things down while i give him a bj and maybe that slowing down will do the relaxation trick!? my goal is to have him cum in my mouth. i'm not telling him that but i have been able to drive my ex boyfriends insane that way, just can't seem to get him to release??? I hope so....or i may need to buy that lube after all..lol
haha i wouldnt worry about the lube, i don't think that stuff makes as much difference as u think.. if he is gonna cum he is gonna cum, im sure ur wet enough! well gd luck! haha i feel soz for the person that posted this blog coz it hasnt provided any help for him at all! Ah yer a question for a woman, when a man cums inside her, but in a condom, can she feel it still?
Typically it depends on the condom? If its really a thin one yes if not no. I think she is more or less seeing how you are acting, we can tell by the tensing up and faces guys make when they cum? So we may or may not really know if you cum or not by how the condom feels. Its more how he's behaving more or less? It is a woman's desire to know that you are pleased with us, just like guys want to please us we want to know that we have pleasured u too? When a guy doesn't cum we blame ourselves for some reason we think that maybe u can cum with other women but not us, so we began to question our abilities? does that help? hopefully so.. I think its just so much tension, maybe the answer is for us to just stop thinking so much! lol
yer think im just going to stop thinking about it and get on with it haha! thanks
well i guess its good that you can last a long time but i think it could be bad too. i mean 3 hrs is too long for me without a break. it makes me feel like i dont make my bf feel good enough to cum or something. like that im somehow doing something wrong. also sometimes if my bf lasts too long it hurts rly bad even if it feels good at the same time. and i will regret letting him bc a few hrs later ill be in alot of pain. and another thing is a girl can get bored or in pain after awhile and just want u to hurry up and finish.
You're very lucky, as most guys, especially younger guys, tend to come quickly. This just shows that, like for women, there is still much variation among men.
Basically, pat yourself on the back and count yourself lucky you can go that long!
However, as the other posts have shown, there is a risk of boring your partner, or worse, causing dryness which leads to small cuts or tears in the vagina and then pain
Sometimes, both partners want to have sex for hours and hours and both enjoy it. However, sometimes if the man wants to go for hours and the woman is not enjoying it, particularly if the man doesn't give enough attention to the clit and g-spot, things can get boring.
If she's not enjoying it, and starts to get tired, her vagina will produce less natural lubricant, which causes dryness and eventually pain.
This is the one of the reasons some women fake orgasm - to get it over with.
No. Sometimes a guy just figures out how to go for ages. It's like flipping a switch - you just flip it to the on position and go and go and go.
Yes. Do the opposite to the normal advice. Tense your PC muscle, squeeze all the muscles in your legs / hips / ass. Have sex in the on-top positions - the missionary and reverse missionary (man on top, woman facing down).
Good on you mate - well bloody done!