Cant orgasm on top

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Anon

My husband and I ave great sex but I can never seem to get off on top.  We mostly have sex missionary first as he likes to satisfy me (usually multiple orgasims in couple min) and then I get on top to finish.  It feels really good and I tighten my muscles but can never get close.  Other times, I will just get on top after foreplay and I start heading in the right direction but never get close.  I have never experiance an orgasim on top with previous partners as well.  Any advice would be awesome!

infosex
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I presume you are having vaginal orgasms (i.e., g-spot or uterine orgasms) and not stroking your clit. In other words, your orgasms happen by the action of your husband's penis.

So the quick answer is to simply stroke your clit while you're on top to have a clitoral orgasm.

 

But that's probably not what you want - you likely want the same, vaginal orgasm on top. Usually being on top will actually help a woman orgasm easier. But in your case there may be a couple of reasons why you don't come.

When on top, do you move back and forth (horizontally) or up and down? The first will hit your G-spot, the second your uterus (with deep strokes).

Also, you say you tighten your (PC) muscles ... do you also do this in the missionary? For a g-spot orgasm, it's likely that relaxing your PC muscle will help get you to orgasm.

Ashlyn

When I am on top I move in a circular motion and try to vary speeds to help. 

I do tighten my PC muscles on bottom as I do on top.  My husband and I have 3 young children and figured I am "loose" due to child birth and his girth and length are unimpressionable.  I tighten so we can feel eachother and both get pleasure (im missionary and his is girl on top).   

infosex
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What about the other positions - doggy, spoons, reverse missionary, reverse cowgirl etc? Do any other positions bring you to orgasm reliably?

Or, when you're on top, try staying still while he moves inside you.

 

It could be to do with the angle of his penis inside you, against your G-spot. Also the angle of your hips will affect the angle his penis makes inside you.

Also, try having no orgasms for a week, then getting on top of your husband, see if that makes any difference.

Anon

Anon wrote:

My husband and I ave great sex but I can never seem to get off on top.  We mostly have sex missionary first as he likes to satisfy me (usually multiple orgasims in couple min) and then I get on top to finish.  It feels really good and I tighten my muscles but can never get close.  Other times, I will just get on top after foreplay and I start heading in the right direction but never get close.  I have never experiance an orgasim on top with previous partners as well.  Any advice would be awesome!

Have him rub your clitoris and touch your breast at the same time this helps me. Good luck.

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