Addicted to sex?

Bee - you are not addicted to sex.

Sex addiction is a fabrication - usually coming from religious or otherwise morality-conscious 'counsellors'. The base their work around scaremongering and culturally-focused notions of sex as evil, shameful, sinful and embarrasing.

Sex is a perfectly natural and normal human bodily urge. It's how the human race has made it through 7 millions years of evolution. It's impossible to get too much sex - unless actual damage is done through STDs or unplanned pregnancy.

You can't have too much sex and you can't have too many orgasms. The more orgasms you have, the less your body will let you have. It's a physiological process, regulated by your body.

Day 3 - 30 you are craving sex because YOU'RE NOT HAVING ANY ORGASMS!!

Can't say for sure from your post whether you're male or female, but either way, just masturbate to orgasm whenever you crave sex. If you're female, stroke your clitoris to orgasm and/or use a vibrator on your clit.

 Also, I have found that if I consistantly have great sex - Then I seem to be fine. Eg, Great sex 3/4 times a week. When I've had this, I dont seem to be infactuated about sex then other times.

 There's the perfect example - when you have sex, your sexual urge is satisfied. When you go for a few days or a week without sex, you get sexually frustrated. That's basic biology, not an addiction.

Here's the simple answer to your problem: MASTURBATE.

 Here's a sample of some of the questions from the sex addiction tests:

Have you been in relationships just for sex?

Has masturbation been ongoing even after marriage?

Have you continued to use pornography after entering a long term committed sexual relationship?

Do you find that you spend a significant amount of time viewing pornography?

Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?

Do you spend too much time online for sexual purposes?

Have you regularly purchased romantic novels or sexually explicit magazines?

Have you regularly engaged in sadomasochistic behavior?

Pure horseshit. If these are the criteria then the entire waking world are sex addicts. Are you married? Do you masturbate? How dare you! Do you read romantic fiction? Go straight to Hell!

I have made appointments to see a councellor.

DO NOT go to this counsellor. Their job is to make you feel like you have a problem, keep coming back and giving them business. Read the questions above - that's the areas they'll focus.

You'd be much better off reading books on sex information and educating yourself.

You're 19 - sex is for pleasure. Masturbate, have an orgasm ... and guess what else ... yes that's right ... enjoy it...

Then when you have sex, take the right precautions, use condoms. Go out and enjoy yourself.

What exactly have you tried?

Do you put your fingers into your vagina? Or stroke your clitoris? Have you tried a vibrator on your clitoris?

Do you set the mood right, use fantasy and give yourself some foreplay?

You would have to ask yourself why it feels wrong.

Physically, it feels nice and pleasureable - this is why it feels good when other people touch you.

Chances are it feels 'wrong' due to cultural, societal or religious reasons - essentially a psychological displeasure. General culture teaches us that sex is wrong, evil, shameful and embarassing. You may have been taught by your parents, schoolteachers, religious leaders that sex is not be enjoyed, and especially not before marraige. Masturbation in particular is a pet hate of western society and only 100 years ago it was believed by the entire medical profession to be the cause of insanity, blindness and dozens of diseases and ills. Even today there is a stigma attached to masturbation. "Good girls" don't do it.

All these factors combine to make you believe that stroking your own clit is wrong and evil, and this can actually manifest itself in a physical discomfort when you try to masturbate.

Ok well there is good clue: you hate your whole body. So again, being touched physically by someone else gives you pleasure, so your hatred of masturbation is a psychological issue. It may be from negative sexual experiences in the past, or self esteem, self confidence. Don't forget that everything around you - your friends, family, the media and school all have an effect on how you view yourself. Your hatred of your own body is blocking your enjoyment of your own body. Clearly, you can feel sexual pleasure when touched by someone else. So in the future, you will be able to feel sexual pleasure when you touch yourself. But it will take time to get over the psychological blockage.

My advice is take your time and don't fret too much about it. You are very young and have lots to explore in life - don't get hung up on sex.