It's been noted by many that orgasm should not be seen as a goal to be reached. Sex can involve lots of different types of pleasures - foreplay, massage, talking, kissing, dancing together. The priorities are your relationship and your love for each other, and pleasure. Still, orgasm can be a really, really nice addition.
One of the nicest ways for women to orgasm is through G spot massage. If this doesn't suit you then the clit might work better for you. Most women can get to orgasm in minutes or less by stroking their clit themselves. Some women get to orgasm other ways, some don't orgasm at all. Everyone is different.