Female Ejaculation
What is Female Ejaculation?
Sometimes during sex, women eject a fluid known as female ejaculate or female come. It comes out of the body through the urethra, the same tube through which urine passes. It's often confused with urine, but it's not. It's clear, has very little smell and leaves no stain on bed sheets. Chemically it's similar to male prostatic fluid, which makes up about 20 to 30% of a man's ejaculate.
Where does female ejaculation come from?
In a word, the G-spot. The G-spot is actually a full organ, complete with about 40 glands and ducts that manufacture female ejaculate and pump it into the urethra at ejaculation time. It's so similar to the male prostate that it's also known as the female prostate.
G-spot massage leads to Female Ejaculation
Female ejaculation is intimately connected with the G-spot, and with multiple orgasm. Although possible, its unlikely that clit massage will give you an ejaculation. Clit massage usually leads to a single orgasm without ejaculation.
When the woman gets this pee feeling, it's important to let it go and NOT tense her PC muscle. No pee will come out pee! It's simply your body readying itself for a female ejaculation, a natural, pleasurable female sexual sensation. Keep your PC muscle relaxed and let go of the 'pee feeling' during G-spot massage. Remember that no urine will come out.
Female Ejaculation
The most common barrier to reaching a G spot orgasm is the 'pee feeling'. Sometimes during G spot massage you'll get this feeling and you might want to stop straight away. Here's some tips to get around this (if you're male make sure to explain all this to your partner beforehand):
First, go to the bathroom and empty your bladder. When you start the G spot massage, you might get the pee feeling. But no urine will come out because you've just emptied her bladder, and the tube leading from the bladder (the urethra) is blocked off during orgasm.
Urine will only come out if you have very weak pelvic floor muscles, which is unlikely for most women.
What's happening is the build up to a female ejaculation. This is a clear or white substance similar to male semen that may shoot out from your urethral opening during orgasm. The ejaculation doesn't come from the bladder. It comes from the paraurethral glands, a collection of small glands parallel to or surrounding the urethra.
Female ejaculation is usually very, very pleasurable, and is most likely to happen during G spot massage. So put a towel or two down underneath you, and talk to your partner about it beforehand.
The way to get over the 'pee feeling' barrier is to just let go. You get this feeling because the paraurethral glands are beginning to fill the urethra with ejaculate. If this is a new sensation you'll probably think you're going to pee. The way to get over it is to actually let your body pee. But no pee will come out! Just let the tension build up and let the feeling go. If you can get over the pee feeling, there's a good chance you'll reach orgasm from G spot massage, and possibly multiple orgasm.
Before you start any of this, discuss it with your partner, especially about the possibility of an ejaculation. Guys, tell your partner you don't mind getting wet if she ejaculates, in fact, you'd find it very, very nice indeed. Girls if you're holding back because you don't want to wet him, just let it go! Most guys find this highly arousing. Put down a towel first in case.
Female ejaculation doesn't have the smell, taste or look of urine. However since it's a bodily fluid you should be as careful with it as you would with any other bodily fluid: semen, blood etc - i.e., don't ingest it or let it get into any open cuts on your body.
Again go to the bathroom to urinate before you do this and try to get over the pee feeling if you get it. Don't give up easily - the more you try the more chance there is you'll enjoy it.
Comments
ive tried and tried to let go of the pee feeling but nothing seems to work it seems everytime i get there nothing happens can someone help please i really want to expreince this
This may be a bit graphic but the only way I can "ejaculate" is when I'm on my knees in our bed and my husband has two fingers in my vagine while stimulating my clitoris with his thumb. This sounds crazy but I've had the most insane orgasms doing this! We both want to do it pretty much every time we have sex. What helps me the most is to manually stimulate him while he's stimulating me. So if I'm focusing on him, then I'm not thinking about the pee feeling. ;-) Good luck!
My wife and I found this about one month ago. I use my two fingers while she lies on her back. Most of the time i lick her clit while inserting my fingers in her and do the "come here" motion with fingers. He will feel you get really swollen in the g spot area. When my wife gets swollen I know she is getting ready to squirt!
We found it by surprise and she just let it go. The first time she was really getting worked up and liking it so I kept going. At the point of squirting I helped ease her by telling her it was ok to just let go as I felt her tensing up. Once she let go it went everywhere and she was digging her nails into me. We love it and do it alot.
PS.....make sure you have towels.....LOL
There's a number of things you can do. Try doing kegels, that's using resistance and squeezing your PC muscles around an object (sex toy) to build up the strength. Go to the bathroom before you start a session of g-spot massage. It's a psychological barrier to get over. Put towels down, make yourself feel as comfortable as possible. Try on your own, without a partner as this might help you experiment more freely. Tell yourself, it's ok if you do pee (even though you won't; the bladder sphincter muscle closes off during g-spot massage and prevents the flow of urine from the bladder.)
It doesn't always work first time - usually takes a few sessions and could take a few weeks of practice so keep trying. Also don't stroke your clit during g-spot massage as this encourages squeezing of your PC muscle. For g-spot orgasm and female ejaculation you want to relax your PC muscle.
try it in the shower. my firlfriend and I tried to make her squirt many times and she just wouldnt do it. then one day we got in the shower and it turned out the water running helped her relax even more.
Thank you, infosex, for this article. I've been very in-tune with my own body and sexuality for a long time, and am glad to see the encouragement for other women to explore and really get to know how good sex can feel.
I've found that what really helps my friends when they're exploring g-spot orgasms and squirting is to do it in the bathtub. Relax, really relax. Experience yourself, and when that pee feeling comes, embrace it. Its not a sign that you're going to pee, its a sign that you are coming close to being the sexiest, most sought-after female sexual minority - the coveted "squirter."
I've not come across anyone, man or woman, who doesn't go completely crazy for us ;)
Happy hunting, good luck ladies!
I am one of those (glad to hear it appreciated as coveted) "gushers", as you call it. The first time it happened, I thought I just had a lack of bladder control, and apologized as if I passed gas. This is not fun in elevators, or cars.
In my twenties, I was embarassed to bring it up when Id get close to someone, sort of like bringing up a disease or something. If they were intrigued, sometimes it added a little stage pressure, and when it didn't happen, he would feel bad about not being able to make it happen.
But when it does - look out! It feels SO great, if your not a neat freak! luckily my partners have agreed. You just bring along towels ( I need 3-4) out for every session. I know its NOT pee bc I would go just before we begin.
It almost always happens (barely no foreplay necessary), on top , facing my partner, with him pushing my hips toward his feet - hard! This is awesome for him to climax at the same time, when it spits on his stomach, and rolls over hips and pelvis.
My anatomy may have something to do with it...I found out when I had my 4th child, that my uterus faces the front instead of the back of my pelvis...perhaps this increases the internal sensation .
I find it very partner dependent, though. If the vagina isn't stimulated by enough girth, or there is not any finger play first, it doesn't work. I find it mentally connected too...the more generous a lover, the easier to gush.
Passionate kisses, back stroking, warm breath on the neck and ears all increase the possibilites of adding to the experience. Its best if he appreciates the experience - just bring some goggles and go for it!
I am one of those (glad to hear it appreciated as coveted) "gushers", as you call it. The first time it happened, I thought I just had a lack of bladder control, and apologized as if I passed gas. This is not fun in elevators, or cars.
In my twenties, I was embarassed to bring it up when Id get close to someone, sort of like bringing up a disease or something. If they were intrigued, sometimes it added a little stage pressure, and when it didn't happen, he would feel bad about not being able to make it happen.
But when it does - look out! It feels SO great, if your not a neat freak! luckily my partners have agreed. You just bring along towels ( I need 3-4) out for every session. I know its NOT pee bc I would go just before we begin.
It almost always happens (barely no foreplay necessary), on top , facing my partner, with him pushing my hips toward his feet - hard! This is awesome for him to climax at the same time, when it spits on his stomach, and rolls over hips and pelvis.
My anatomy may have something to do with it...I found out when I had my 4th child, that my uterus faces the front instead of the back of my pelvis...perhaps this increases the internal sensation .
I find it very partner dependent, though. If the vagina isn't stimulated by enough girth, or there is not any finger play first, it doesn't work. I find it mentally connected too...the more generous a lover, the easier to gush.
Passionate kisses, back stroking, warm breath on the neck and ears all increase the possibilites of adding to the experience. Its best if he appreciates the experience - just bring some goggles and go for it!
I am one of those (glad to hear it appreciated as coveted) "gushers", as you call it. The first time it happened, I thought I just had a lack of bladder control, and apologized as if I passed gas. This is not fun in elevators, or cars.
In my twenties, I was embarassed to bring it up when Id get close to someone, sort of like bringing up a disease or something. If they were intrigued, sometimes it added a little stage pressure, and when it didn't happen, he would feel bad about not being able to make it happen.
But when it does - look out! It feels SO great, if your not a neat freak! luckily my partners have agreed. You just bring along towels ( I need 3-4) out for every session. I know its NOT pee bc I would go just before we begin.
It almost always happens (barely no foreplay necessary), on top , facing my partner, with him pushing my hips toward his feet - hard! This is awesome for him to climax at the same time, when it spits on his stomach, and rolls over hips and pelvis.
My anatomy may have something to do with it...I found out when I had my 4th child, that my uterus faces the front instead of the back of my pelvis...perhaps this increases the internal sensation .
I find it very partner dependent, though. If the vagina isn't stimulated by enough girth, or there is not any finger play first, it doesn't work. I find it mentally connected too...the more generous a lover, the easier to gush.
Passionate kisses, back stroking, warm breath on the neck and ears all increase the possibilites of adding to the experience. Its best if he appreciates the experience - just bring some goggles and go for it!